Some friends came to our house the other day and made some comments to us that got me all fired up. Those of you that know me well, know that this is hard to do. Most of the time I am pretty mellow and don't allow too much to get under my skin, but this really irritated me. Living in this part of the world you have to be careful who you can trust and who you cant and you have to decipher whether or not someone is your friend just because of the color of your skin or because they really like you. But another thing that happens here is that there is so little room for getting ahead in life, that nobody wants anyone else to get ahead. So people backbite like crazy and are always pointing out the negative in everyone else. It gets so annoying!
The comment that they made was in reference to a good friend of ours, and they were basically saying that he is only our friend for our money. How rude! That would be like someone that you are an acquaintance with coming to you and saying something bad about a family member of yours. But the only thing they were saying was based on rumors that other people were telling them. And yet this same person, is friends with your family member and treats them nicely while face to face. Yuck! It makes me want to tell my friend to run the other way, although I know that is not the right thing to do.
Imagine living in a society where there is NO work. You have a family to feed and you try to do what you can, but no matter what you try, there is just no income anywhere. Then some people come to town and offer you a job and you are a good worker, and you are finally getting paid and able to feed your family. Woohoo! Except that now everyone else in town is super jealous of you and wants to speak all kinds of bad about you. So wherever you go, you have to try and prove yourself 10 times more then you would normally have to because of the slander that has been said about you. Ugh! I hate this.
It is something that we don't experience at home much (I don't think anyway), because it seems that for the most part in America, we are happy for others when they succeed. Maybe because there is room for us to as well....I don't know. Sometimes people act like jr. highers in the way they deal with things here though. It is so annoying...
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Hey Girl.. love the blog. The pics are great!! Miss you guys like crazy!! Tell the boys hello. And Anup and family we love them.. and know they are totally sincere in all they do. ; )Love, Mary
Way cool that I can comment and don't have to me a member. I have myspace, facebook, and xanga besides my emails.. so it's getting kinda out of hand. Glad I can connect with you without having to join. - Mary
i can totally see how upsetting that would be. I think it is like that here though. It's just not as blatant maybe. People hide it better, but they are still totally competetive. I think they're happy to root for the underdog, but if (in their opinion) they think you ever get too big for your britches, they want to pull you back down. It's just a person being small. They do it to Jason's mom all the time where she lives. If she has a party and lights candles, they treat her like she's "trying to be better than everyone, and that she thinks she's so fancy". I guess no matter where you are, peeps are the same.
miss you.xo
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